Reflexive Verbs, Reciprocal Verbs, and lassen

1. Introduction

German has verbs that are used with a reflexive pronoun. This pronoun shows that the action is connected with the person doing the action.

The reflexive pronoun changes according to person and case.

PersonForms
ichmich / mir
dudich / dir
er / sie / essich
wiruns
ihreuch
sie / Siesich

2. Reflexive verbs with the accusative

Many reflexive verbs use a reflexive pronoun in the Akkusativ. The person does something to themselves or describes their own state.

Table: sich setzen - to sit down

PersonForm
ichich setze mich
dudu setzt dich
er / sie / eser / sie / es setzt sich
wirwir setzen uns
ihrihr setzt euch
sie / Siesie / Sie setzen sich

Common reflexive verbs with the accusative

German verbMeaning
sich waschento wash oneself
sich kämmento comb one's hair
sich anziehento get dressed
sich fühlento feel
sich freuento be happy, to look forward to
sich schämento be ashamed
sich erinnernto remember
sich setzento sit down
sich legento lie down
sich bewegento move
sich befindento be located
sich vorbereitento prepare oneself
sich erkältento catch a cold
sich erholento rest, recover

3. Position of the reflexive pronoun in the sentence

In a normal statement, the conjugated verb stands in second position. The reflexive pronoun usually stands close to the verb.

If the subject is a personal pronoun, it usually comes before the reflexive pronoun.

If the subject is a noun, the reflexive pronoun often stands after the conjugated verb and before that noun.

4. Reflexive verbs and constructions with the dative

Some reflexive verbs and reflexive constructions use a reflexive pronoun in the Dativ. The pronoun often means "for oneself" or "to oneself". Very often, there is another object in the accusative.

Table: sich etwas kaufen - to buy something for oneself

PersonForm
ichich kaufe mir
dudu kaufst dir
er / sie / eser / sie / es kauft sich
wirwir kaufen uns
ihrihr kauft euch
sie / Siesie / Sie kaufen sich

Reflexive pronouns in the dative

PersonDative
ichmir
dudir
er / sie / essich
wiruns
ihreuch
sie / Siesich

Common constructions with the dative

German constructionMeaning
sich etwas vorstellento imagine something
sich etwas leistento afford something
sich etwas ansehento look at or watch something
sich etwas kaufento buy something for oneself
sich etwas suchento look for something for oneself
sich vorkommento seem to oneself, to feel like

With these constructions, another complement in the Akkusativ often appears next to the dative pronoun.

mir / dir are reflexive pronouns in the Dativ. ein neues Auto is the object in the Akkusativ.

5. Reciprocal verbs

Some verbs describe an action between two or more people. They can also be used with sich, uns, or euch.

To make the reciprocal meaning clearer, German can use einander - "each other".

Common reciprocal verbs

German verbMeaning
sich treffento meet
sich trennento separate
sich kennento know each other
sich liebento love each other
sich hassento hate each other
sich helfento help each other
sich verstehento understand each other
sich streitento argue
sich begrüßento greet each other
sich unterhaltento have a conversation

6. The verb lassen

The verb lassen has several important meanings.

It can be used as an independent verb or together with the infinitive of another verb.

6.1. Lassen as an independent verb

When used independently, lassen often means "to leave" something somewhere.

In this construction, the object stands in the Akkusativ: den Mantel, deine Bücher.

7. Lassen + infinitive

lassen can be used with the infinitive of another verb. Depending on context, this construction can mean "to let", "to allow", "to have someone do something", "to ask someone to do something", or "to make something possible".

Part of the constructionExample
conjugated form of lassenlässt
accusative complementdich
infinitivegrüßen

The infinitive stands at the end of the construction.

8. Sich lassen + infinitive

The construction sich lassen + Infinitiv can express that an action is possible or impossible. It often has a passive-like meaning: "can be done".

In the negative form, German uses nicht.

9. Sich etwas machen lassen

The construction sich + Dativ + etwas + machen lassen means that someone else does the action for the person expressed by the reflexive pronoun.

mir / sich names the person for whom the action is done. ein neues Kleid / einen Anzug names the object of the action. machen lassen / nähen lassen shows that the person is not doing the action themselves.

10. Lass uns / Lasst uns + infinitive

Lass uns + Infinitiv is used as an invitation to do something together.

Lasst uns + Infinitiv is used when addressing several people.

11. What to remember

Reflexive verbs are used with a reflexive pronoun.

In the Akkusativ, the forms are:

PersonForm
ichmich
dudich
er / sie / essich
wiruns
ihreuch
sie / Siesich

In the Dativ, the forms are:

PersonForm
ichmir
dudir
er / sie / essich
wiruns
ihreuch
sie / Siesich